Here are some of my favorite quotes that influenced my choice for
HOMEMAKING as my CAREER:
Susan W. Tanner (Young Women General President)- “Strengthening
Future Mothers”
Several years ago my husband and I asked our children what they
liked about the recent general conference. Our then-16-year-old daughter was
elated. She said, “I loved it! I loved hearing inspired, intelligent prophets
and leaders affirm motherhood.” Then she told us that this was one of the
disturbing anxieties in her life: “I just don’t hear it from anyone—not at
seminary, not in Young Women, and definitely not at school; nowhere except at
home.”
I would like to
affirm motherhood, to talk about the newest phrase in our Young Women theme:
“be prepared to strengthen home and family.”
Homemaking skills are becoming a lost art. I worry about this.
When we lose the homemakers in a society, we create an emotional homelessness
much like street homelessness, with similar problems of despair, drugs,
immorality, and lack of self-worth… So we must teach homemaking skills,
including practical ones such as cooking, sewing, budgeting, and beautifying.
We must let young women know that homemaking skills are honorable and can help
them spiritually as well as temporally. Making a home appealing physically will
encourage loved ones to want to be there and will help create the kind of
atmosphere that is conducive to the Spirit. Sunday lessons,
Mutual, and Personal Progress are all programs that provide times and ways to
teach these necessary lessons.
The Family Proclamation
By divine design, fathers are to preside over
their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the
necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily
responsible for the nurture of their children.
President Hinckley- “Standing for
Something”
“Women who make a house a home make a far greater contribution
to society than those who command large armies or stand at the head of
impressive corporations. Who can put a price tag on the influence a mother has
on her children, a grandmother on her posterity, or aunts and sisters on their
extended family?
Julie Beck(Relief Society General President)- “Mothers Who
Know”
Mothers
who know are nurturers. This is their special assignment and role under the
plan of happiness.5 To nurture means to cultivate, care for, and make grow.
Therefore, mothers who know create a climate for spiritual and temporal growth
in their homes. Another word for nurturing is homemaking. Homemaking
includes cooking, washing clothes and dishes, and keeping an orderly home. Home
is where women have the most power and influence; therefore, Latter-day Saint
women should be the best homemakers in the world.
Mothers who know do less. They permit less of what will not bear
good fruit eternally. They allow less media in their homes, less distraction,
less activity that draws their children away from their home. Mothers who know
are willing to live on less and consume less of the world’s goods in order to
spend more time with their children—more time eating together, more time
working together, more time reading together, more time talking, laughing,
singing, and exemplifying. These mothers choose carefully and do not try to
choose it all.
President Spencer W. Kimball- “John and
Mary Beginning Life Together”
Mary, with your
wholesome attitude toward family life, I know you will desire to devote your
life to your home and family; so when you resign your job and no longer have
that income to spend upon yourself, it will mean many adjustments for you; but
I understand you have considered all those things and are willing. You see,
Mary, it was never intended by the Lord that married women should compete with
men in employment. They have a far greater and more important service to
render, and so you give up your employment and settle down to become the queen
of the little new home that you will proceed to transform into a heaven for
John, this man whom you adore. John will work hard and will do his best to
provide you with comforts and even luxuries later, but this is the perfect way,
to “start from scratch” together.
And Mary, you have
much to learn in these coming months. Perhaps you, like most of the other young
women of the nation, have prepared yourself for a career that you will not
follow. One college president said about ninety-two percent of all the girls in
his college studied languages and mathematics and business, and then when they
were married found that they not only had limited use for their specialized
training, but they had also failed to train for the great career to which they
were now to dedicate their lives. Mary, you are to become a career woman in the
greatest career on earth—that of homemaker, wife, and mother. And so, if you
have failed to prepare for motherhood and homemaking when you could, you may
make up somewhat by devoting yourself to those subjects now. In your spare time
you could now study child psychology and child discipline, the fundamentals of
nursing, the art of teaching, particularly how to tell stories and teach
children; and you will want to get all the theory as well as the practice now
in cooking, sewing, budgeting, and buying.
John’s limited income
will spread far if you can learn to buy efficiently and cook expertly so that
there will never be waste. And his small income can go far if you learn to make
some of your own clothes and those of the children and utilize scraps and pick
up bargains. And if you learn the rudiments of nursing, you may be able to save
much in doctor and hospital costs by recognizing symptoms and treating minor
afflictions, and you may also have the satisfaction of even saving the lives of
your own precious family by your being able to do practical nursing. And so
your economies will largely make up for the loss of your own income.
You wouldn’t want to
work outside the home anyway, Mary, for women are expected to earn the living
only in emergencies, and you must know that many are the broken homes resulting
when women leave their posts at home. You see, if both husband and wife are
working away from home and come home tired, it is very easy for unpleasantness
and misunderstandings to arise. And so, Mary, you will remain at home, making
it attractive and heavenly, and when John comes home tired, you will be fresh
and pleasant; the house will be orderly; the dinner will be tempting; and life
will have real meaning.
D. Todd Christofferson- “The Moral
Force of Women- 2013”
A pernicious philosophy that undermines women’s moral influence
is the devaluation of marriage and of motherhood and homemaking as a career. Some view homemaking with outright contempt, arguing it
demeans women and that the relentless demands of raising children are a form of
exploitation.8 They ridicule
what they call “the mommy track” as a career. This is not fair or right. We do
not diminish the value of what women or men achieve in any worthy endeavor or
career—we all benefit from those achievements—but we still recognize there is
not a higher good than motherhood and fatherhood in marriage. There is no
superior career, and no amount of money, authority, or public acclaim can
exceed the ultimate rewards of family. Whatever else a woman may accomplish,
her moral influence is no more optimally employed than here.
President Ezra Taft Benson- “To the Mothers
in Zion”
Again, in the Doctrine and Covenants, we read: "Women have claim on
their husbands for their maintenance, until their husbands are taken"
(D&C 83:2). This is the divine right of a wife and mother. She cares for
and nourishes her children at home. Her husband earns the living for the
family, which makes this nourishing possible. With that claim on their husbands
for their financial support, the counsel of the Church has always been for
mothers to spend their full time in the home in rearing and caring for their
children.
We realize also that some of our choice sisters are widowed and divorced
and that others find themselves in unusual circumstances where, out of
necessity, they are required to work for a period of time. But these instances
are the exception, not the rule.
In a home where there is an able-bodied husband, he is expected to be the
breadwinner. Sometimes we hear of husbands who, because of economic conditions,
have lost their jobs and expect their wives to go out of the home and work even
though the husband is still capable of providing for his family. In these
cases, we urge the husband to do all in his power to allow his wife to remain
in the home caring for the children while he continues to provide for his
family the best he can, even though the job be is able secure may not be ideal
and family budgeting will have to be tighter.
Our beloved
prophet Spencer W. Kimball had much to say about the role of mothers in the
home and their callings and responsibilities. I am impressed tonight to share
with you some of his inspired pronouncements. I fear that much of his counsel
has gone unheeded, and families have suffered because of it. But I stand this
evening as a second witness to the truthfulness of what President Spencer W.
Kimball said. He spoke as a true prophet of God.
President Kimball declared: "Women are to take care of the
family--the Lord has so stated--to be an assistant to the husband, to work with
him, but not to earn the living, except in unusual circumstances. Men ought to
be men indeed and earn the living under normal circumstances" (Teachings
of Spencer W. Kimball, p. 318 ).
President
Kimball continues: "Too many mothers work away from home to furnish
sweaters and music lessons and trips and fun for their children. Too many women
spend their time in socializing, in politicking, in public services when they
should be home to teach and train and receive and love their children into
security" (Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, p. 319).
Remember the counsel of President Kimball to John and Mary: "Mary,
you are to become a career woman in the greatest career on earth--that of
homemaker, wife, and mother. It was never intended by the Lord that married
women should compete with men in employment. They have a far greater and more important
service to render.
Again
President Kimball speaks: "The husband is expected to support his family
and only in an emergency should a wife secure outside employment. Her place is
in the home, to build the home into a haven of delight.
"Numerous
divorces can be traced directly to the day when the wife left the home and went
out into the world into employment. Two incomes raise the standard of living
beyond its norm. Two spouses working prevent the complete and proper home life,
break into the family prayers, create an independence which is not cooperative,
causes distortion, limits the family, and frustrates the children already
born" (Spencer W. Kimball, San Antonio Fireside, Dec. 3, 1977, pp. 9-10 ).
Finally President Kimball counsels: "I beg of you, you who could and
should be bearing and rearing a family: Wives, come home from the typewriter,
the laundry, the nursing, come home from the factory, the cafe. No career
approaches in importance that of wife, homemaker, mother--cooking meals,
washing dishes, making beds for one's precious husband and children. Come home,
wives, to your husbands. Make home a heaven for them. Come home, wives, to your
children, born and unborn. Wrap the motherly cloak about you and,
unembarrassed, help in a major role to create the bodies for the immortal souls
who anxiously await.
"When you have fully complemented your husband in home life and
borne the children, growing up full of faith, integrity, responsibility, and
goodness, then you have achieved your accomplishment supreme, without peer, and
you will be the envy [of all] through time and eternity" (Spencer W.
Kimball, San Antonio Fireside, Dec. 3, 1977, pp. 11-12).
President
Kimball spoke the truth. His words are prophetic.
Mothers in
Zion, your God-given roles are so vital to your own exaltation and to the
salvation and exaltation of your family. A child needs a mother more than all
the things money can buy. Spending time with your children is the greatest gift
of all.
Howard W.
Hunter- Prepare for Honorable
Employment
I completed my undergraduate work and entered law school. I took
classes at night because it was necessary to be employed during the daytime.
These were not easy years for us, but desires are usually accomplished if we
are willing to make a determined effort. Needless to say, I had the help and
support of my wife. She remained a homemaker and cared for our
children. What she gave in love, encouragement, frugality, and companionship
was far in excess of any material contribution she might have made by taking
employment.
Our wives deserve great credit for the heavy work load they
carry day in and day out within our homes. No one expends more energy than a
devoted mother and wife. In the usual arrangement of things, however, it is the
man to whom the Lord has assigned the breadwinner’s role.
There are impelling reasons for our sisters to plan toward
employment also. We want them to obtain all the education and vocational
training possible before marriage. If they become widowed or divorced and need
to work, we want them to have dignified and rewarding employment. If a sister
does not marry, she has every right to engage in a profession that allows her
to magnify her talents and gifts.
James E
Faust- “How Near to the Angels”
You cannot trust
the many conflicting voices that clamor about what women should or should not
do in today’s society. Some of the loudest voices are echoes of those others
who are out of harmony with themselves and out of tune with life in general
rather than being unhappy with their role as women.
Do not be deceived
in your quest to find happiness and an identity of your own. Entreating voices
may tell you that what you have seen your mothers and grandmothers do is
old-fashioned, unchallenging, boring, and drudgery. It may have been
old-fashioned and perhaps routine; at times it was drudgery. But your mothers
and grandmothers have sung a song that expressed the highest love and the
noblest of womanly feelings. They have been our nurturers and our teachers.
They have sanctified the work, transforming drudgery into the noblest
enterprises.
Homemaking is
whatever you make of it. Every day brings satisfaction along with some work
which may be frustrating, routine, and unchallenging. But it is the same in the
law office, the dispensary, the laboratory, or the store. There is, however, no
more important job than homemaking. As C. S. Lewis said, “A housewife’s work …
is the one for which all others exist.” 10
President Hinckley- “To the women of the
Church”
Some years ago President Benson delivered a message to the women
of the Church. He encouraged them to leave their employment and give their
individual time to their children. I sustain the position which he took.
Nevertheless, I recognize, as he recognized, that there are some
women (it has become very many in fact) who have to work to provide for the needs
of their families. To you I say, do the very best you can. I hope that if you
are employed full-time you are doing it to ensure that basic needs are met and
not simply to indulge a taste for an elaborate home, fancy cars, and other
luxuries. The greatest job that any mother will ever do will be in nurturing,
teaching, lifting, encouraging, and rearing her children in righteousness and
truth. None other can adequately take her place.
It is well-nigh impossible to be a full-time homemaker and a full-time employee.
I know how some of you struggle with decisions concerning this matter. I
repeat, do the very best you can. You know your circumstances, and I know that
you are deeply concerned for the welfare of your children. Each of you has a
bishop who will counsel with you and assist you. If you feel you need to speak
with an understanding woman, do not hesitate to get in touch with your Relief
Society president.
President
Hinckley-“Live up to your inheritance”
I salute most warmly and sincerely you dedicated and wonderful
homemakers. I have only respect for the title “housewife.”
I clipped this from the Wall Street Journal, titled “The Most
Creative Job in the World”:
“It involves taste,
fashion, decorating, recreation, education, transportation, psychology, romance,
cuisine, designing, literature, medicine, handicraft, art, horticulture,
economics, government, community relations, pediatrics, geriatrics,
entertainment, maintenance, purchasing, direct mail, law, accounting, religion,
energy and management. Anyone who can handle all those has to be somebody
special. She is. She’s a homemaker.” (3 June 1983.)
