COVENANT OF PEACE

Lately, we have been trying to establish peace and kindness constantly in our home.
We have each person promise at our evening prayer, that they will be kind all day the next day and keep the peace. They put their name in the jar and if they are kind at the end of the next day, they get a treat for being sweet (usually a bowl of ice cream or a 15 min fun computer game)
It is helping a lot - one day at a time...

GRADING RELATIONSHIPS
Another way we are rewarding keeping their covenant of peace focuses on their relationships between each person in the family.
I decided to cut out friends for a while and focus on family.
I sat down with each of them and graded their relationship was with each family member.
If they have A's and B's with everyone, they can play with friends-home or away
If they have C's, they can play with friends at our house- where I can supervise them
If they have D's or F's, they don't get to play with friends-they need to strengthen their family
- Here's how they move up... if they are kind all morning long, they can move a step (C- to C)... that's only for the people they were absolutely peaceful and respectful towards. Then we repeat it again in the afternoon and evening *(There are 3 grading periods).
-They can move down at any time by being disrespectful- saying or doing mean things... and it can move down more than a step... depending on the severity... I grade at regular times each day...not in the moment when I might judge annoying things too harshly.

-I also link this to phones... To have a phone, you need to be consistently kind to family (the overall qualifications for a phone are RESPONSIBLE + EMOTIONALLY MATURE... see this link:
Cell phone readiness)